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From yesterday: If we can answer questions like this then, hopefully, we gain some insight into what kinds of things are likely to send us spiraling out of control.
If we gain some insight into what kinds of things are likely to send us spiraling out of control then we can begin to mentally prepare ourselves for our own reactions. If we can prepare, then we can begin to create space to choose (within reason) a response to our reactions (as opposed to simply reacting to our reactions).
I know, I know- this sounds too easy. In many ways, it is too easy. We’re not always going to be able to choose a response. Some triggers are so powerful and so deeply ingrained that the only way to come to grips at all is to do meaningful work with a therapist of a long period of time. The point is not that we can learn how to gain control of ourselves when we’re powerless. The point is that gaining awareness may make some of our roughest edges a little bit smoother.
We may learn to “limit the damage.”