Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
19 “This is the basis for judgment: The light came into the world, and people loved darkness more than the light, for their actions are evil. 20 All who do wicked things hate the light and don’t come to the light for fear that their actions will be exposed to the light. John 3:19-20, CEB
From yesterday: We’re choosing to start the process with awareness of the problem. It always begins with awareness. If we don’t know we have a problem, we cannot address the problem. The shame that tells us that we need to perform in order for God to love us is not serving us well and it isn’t true. This is step one.
We may know that we’re living in shame. But, at the same time, we may not know that our shame is wrong. Many times, we believe that the things our shame is telling us are true, and we feel ashamed because we believe we are wrong and we need to get with the program.
In this case we must begin with the awareness that the shame that tells us we must perform for God to love us is wrong. That is a lie and, when we begin to perform, we are listening to, believing, responding to the lie. We need to realize that it is not us who are wrong, it is the lie that shame is telling us.
Once we’re aware of this truth we gain the capacity to choose how we are going to respond to it.