Halfway through any inventory, it is helpful to remember WHO and WHOSE we are. Chronic illness? Beware the temptation to start making it your identity. Victim of a terrible injustice? Beware the temptation to make that the only story you tell to define yourself. Perpetrator of a crime? Ok, but watch out that you don’t turn yourself into a caricature of your fullest self. You are more than the worst thing you ever did or failed to do.
I’ll never forget the trouble, the utter lostness,
the taste of ashes, the poison I’ve swallowed.
I remember it all—oh, how well I remember—
the feeling of hitting the bottom. Lamentations 3:19-20 MSG
Thing seven: Each of us has things we like to remember (fixate on) and other things we are inclined to forget (you know what I mean). It’s super important to bring up your thinking about life, not just the compulsive ways you have thought about it historically.