If we allow shame to work on us but not overtake us, then we can tell ourselves the truth and maybe even confess our own sins and limitations. Shame improperly applied causes us to shrink, run, and hide. It says we are broken, beyond repair, unworthy. Shame lies if it is allowed to talk to long. That’s why MORE verses are needed to inform our situations more fully:
Therefore, since we have been made righteous through his faithfulness, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 We have access by faith into this grace in which we stand through him, and we boast in the hope of God’s glory. 3 But not only that! We even take pride in our problems, because we know that trouble produces endurance,4 endurance produces character, and character produces hope.5 This hope doesn’t put us to shame, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.
6 While we were still weak, at the right moment, Christ died for ungodly people. 7 It isn’t often that someone will die for a righteous person, though maybe someone might dare to die for a good person. 8 But God shows his love for us, because while we were still sinners Christ died for us. Romans 5:1-8 CEB
Still sinners. Before we got our acts together and stopped doing shameful things. God shows his judgment? No way Jose! He shows his love for us. There is plenty of room for lots of emotions at the table, but to only give shame a voice at the table is to ignore the quiet, loving, sustaining voice of God himself.