Step 6: We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
8 But if we died with Christ, we have faith that we will also live with him. 9 We know that Christ has been raised from the dead and he will never die again. Death no longer has power over him. 10 He died to sin once and for all with his death, but he lives for God with his life. 11 In the same way, you also should consider yourselves dead to sin but alive for God in Christ Jesus.
12 So then, don’t let sin rule your body, so that you do what it wants. 13 Don’t offer parts of your body to sin, to be used as weapons to do wrong. Instead, present yourselves to God as people who have been brought back to life from the dead, and offer all the parts of your body to God to be used as weapons to do right. 14 Sin will have no power over you, because you aren’t under Law but under grace. Romans 6:8-14, CEB
Step 6 is all about getting ready to have God remove all these defects of character. We’re getting prepared to say goodbye to some stuff. At first glance, perhaps this seems easy. Who wouldn’t want to get rid of their character defects? I’m ready for that!
But, our character defects often play a role in our life that makes it hard for us to say goodbye to them. Often times our character defects are like coping mechanisms. They play a role in our lives that keeps us from having to deal with hard realities. Deflecting, ignoring, repressing, etc. are all very effective strategies that keep us from confronting issues head-on. These can be character defects, but they aren’t always. Rage can be a coping mechanism. Almost anything can be. Coping mechanisms work because they keep us from dealing with something that is less desirable than the coping mechanism.
So yeah, sure, on the one hand, nobody likes a character defect. On the other, we kind of need some of them sometimes. When something particularly difficult roles around the corner, we may want/need one of our mechanisms that keeps us from living in that hard reality. When that happens, it’s so much harder to wave goodbye, isn’t it?