Better to be poor and walk in innocence
than to have dishonest lips and be a fool. Proverbs 19:1, CEB
Do you have a sponsor?
If you’re struggling with vulnerability, it may be good to find one. You don’t need to be an addict to have a sponsor, you just need to be someone looking to work the steps in an organized and dedicated way. The process of doing that teaches us an awful lot about vulnerability.
Having a sponsor isn’t easy though. It means giving someone else permission not only to enter into our lives as a listener, but also as a speaker. While it’s hard to share with someone, it can be even harder to receive feedback from that person on what they’re hearing. It’s hard to be challenged and to be pushed. That’s part of what a sponsor does.
It’s like having a personal trainer. The personal trainer pushes you to try new workouts and exercises and keeps track of your progress. They make you increase the intensity of your workouts before you think you’re ready. But ultimately, they get you in shape.
Sponsors come in many different shapes and sizes. It’s important to have one that’s a good fit for who you are. Hopefully, when you find that, you’ll have someone who intuitively knows how to get you in shape. They’ll know how to lead you and guide you through the steps in meaningful ways. You have to do your own work on the steps, of course, and the sponsor can’t make you do anything you’re not ready to do. But sometimes we’re ready for new challenges we don’t even know we’re ready for, and they can see that before we can. A good sponsor will have that kind of symbiosis with us.
If this is something you want to try, and don’t know how to get started, get in touch with me or mom. We can help you find someone.